Forever Apart...?

So...the UK left the EU.

Yeah, that happened.

I heard it might affect my visa. And it's already difficult as is with carers allowance.

I've kinda lost all hope now...

What's the point in doing anything....everything I've done ....everything I've worked hard for in this relationship....has come to this. All that I've worked toward has stopped here. I can work harder, but, there seems to be a stronger chance of denial now, as immigration will be frowned upon now. I bet even if I do this legally I'll still be denied. EVERYTHING I HAVE BEEN WORKING FOR HAS BEEN ALL IN VAIN!!

I can't live in this distance anymore. If I'm rejected, I'm not sure I'll be able to continue on...
Newlyweds shouldn't be apart, so if this distance continues,....I can't handle this. I'm all alone right now, can't go out and do things without a car. Tried making friends on certain websites but to no avail.  Is this my fate?  Am I destined to be stuck at home and suffering alone?

I'm not even sure anymore

Minuscule, But Important Updates

So yesterday I just sent out my passport application. With it were rather sensitive documents, such as my old passport and my marriage certificate. If I'd had the option, I would have secured that package with a microchip or something. I've been tracking it and so far it is moving along smoothly. On the other side of the pond, my hubby has been gathering the things he needs to submit as well. He's been looking at houses for us to stay in, as well as getting the things he needs from work. He contacted a legal adviser, so the whole Carer's Allowance situation might be explained better for us. I've downloaded an app that allows texting and calling, for I still do not have phone service. My brother told me it's time to get under a contract. Hearing that made me realize that I'm twenty, unemployed, and still live with my parents. Needless to say, I feel pretty pathetic now. ☹️ 
But I am working on the Spouse Visa right now, so at least I am not completely incompetent. At least I am doing something with my life instead of just laying around playing on my phone. Both my parents work hard during the day, and I feel guilty if I lay around being lazy. I clean the house if need be and try to stay on top of things. But I don't feel like it's enough sometimes. I could get a job, but not only do I not have phone service to call and get rides, but I am moving soon. And we are REALLY close to having the funds for this.

But I wonder if my family members see me as lazy and incompetent? ☹️ 

Our Unique Situation

As you all know, I'm coming along with regards to the visa. Each day, something new is being checked off the box. I am pretty well set with regards to relationship evidence. I may add a few more DeviantART logs in though.

I REALLY WANT TO THANK LOVEMYBRIT RIGHT NOW!!

I have used the checklist extensively provided by LoveMyBrit, and it's given me the confidence in the success rate of this visa, simply because they have successfully completed the visa themselves. Today, I have found introduction letter examples and advice on their website, when I did not think they would have it. I wrote my applicant letter of introduction today, have not printed it out yet though because I am considering on whether or not to send it to LoveMyBrit for review. If this visa application is a success, I might almost send the LoveMyBrit couple a box of chocolates because their advice to me is a godsend.

The GOV.UK website is difficult to understand and navigate, and it does not provide any examples or adequate details as to the visa process, and I know that is because of unique situations, which I will discuss here in a bit.

BUT I WANT TO SHOWER LOVEMYBRIT WITH MANY THANKS FOR THEIR HELP AND ADVICE!

I would not be this far if it weren't for them. 

Anyway, back to the unique situation thing. My husband, Dayle, currently receives Carer's Allowance for his older brother Callum. Needless to say, this makes him exempt from the £18,600 financial requirement. That may sound simple, but it isn't. I still have yet to totally figure out what to put into the application regarding this. It's stressing me out a bit. From the research I've done, legal advice was suggested by many outlets. I've got nearly $1,100 saved and I don't want to spend very much money right now, since I know legal advice may not be cheap in some cases. I'm hoping to find a legitimate source that provides a free consultation, or something. It will ease my worries in this whole situation.

It's a lot to think about right now, my mind is a big sticky web full of information and stuff, I don't even feel I have much more brainpower to continue writing..oafmnklsmakmf.,sma.,fms.asvjdoaskjoekalkfmwe

I think I can say for a fact that I could never be a researcher. So much digging and headaches.

I EVEN WENT TO THE 5TH PAGE OF GOOGLE!!

...You NEVER do that unless you're that desperate.

Despite all this, though, I have good confidence in this visa thing. I want to say that it's thanks to, again, LoveMyBrit's checklist. Since they are a successful visa couple.

Seriously, check out LoveMyBrit, They have some amazingly helpful articles. Much better than this shit I post on here that seems to be buried under all the more popular blogs lol.

Also, if you're British, sign LoveMyBrit's petition! It's to encourage joint-sponsorship so other people can help contribute to the ridiculous £18,600 requirement. 

*sigh*....we've got this. We can do this. I want to fight for Dayle. I love him, and I hate the word distance. I hate it. It's a cactus rolling off my tongue. I want to stop it, and end it. I want to stop these goodbyes. This little concern of mine isn't going to stop me!! 

More Progress Made!!

This is silly, and small, but it gets me kind of excited considering the fact that I was able to check off another box on my visa checklist. I made a photo timeline, and it's now in the binder. Again, it's silly and small, but it's progress being made, and I am pretty happy about that. It gets my mind off of the depression I feel with having Dayle being away from me. Actually, I can work on the entire Evidence of Relationship Requirement section right now. But realistically, the very first order of business is to get my passport in. I can't start the VAF4A until then. I want to do that right now, but I am unsure of this, because I still have no phone service to get rides anywhere...

But the ball is starting to roll nonetheless, and I am glad to see the progress being made.

One Checkbox Checked

I haven't started the VAF4A form yet because I have yet to apply for my new passport. The new passport is the first order of business. It has to be done by post though, and it has to be paid by check. I don't have a checkbook right now...I am not sure how I would get one with my bank. Even still, there's not much I can do right now because I have no phone service. My dad fell behind on the bill so I can't text or receive texts. Even iMessage won't work. Thinking about getting a GoPhone SIM card but again I can't text anyone to get a ride. So I'm not really sure what to do.

However I've done a bit of the VAF4A Appendix 2. I haven't completed it though because the paper size I currently have is too small. Today, I've also printed out all of our emails and some conversation logs from before we got together. I was able to check a box on the checklist.
So I'm making progress and I'm glad about that! I've got over $1,000 right now and my hubby has a good amount in his savings. The visa itself is $1,810 but that doesn't count the £600 NHS surcharge. We are really close to affording this, and I'm glad about that. The ball is beginning to roll now. I'm not sure on his end though, because he'd just returned from his 24 hour trip back so I'm guessing he's sleeping. I miss him :( I wish we were able to work on this together. We did a bit together on the Appendix 2 before he left though. I'm going to log my progress not just for sentimental reasons but to help other couples. Right now I'm fairly confident in how this will go. My main concerns are the limited vista computer I use, any surprise fees, printing issues, and transportation limitations.

But I love my husband, and even if the visa requires me to swim the Atlantic to the UK, let me get my swimsuit and some sunscreen!!

Updates!

This is when the business starts kicking in. I know this has been dead the past few months but I've just been trying to get the ball rolling. First I needed to complete college, and I did. Then my British partner flew over here in April for a month. We got married May 15, 2016. Here's some pics!

Well Dayle had to go home today and I feel like absolute crap right now because I had to say goodbye AGAIN...  this time to my new husband. We'd just married and he had to go home. I'm sick of this distance. Expect more posts from here on out because I'm going to start this visa process because FUCK this distance and the goodbyes!!! :(

So that's where I've been, and expect this blog to become alive again.