The Process is Officially Underway!

After a month of stressful waiting and a marriage certificate mix up, I just got my new passport in, with my married name! With it, this spouse visa process can be officially begin. I can fill out the VAF4A application form now. But I need to wait a bit more before I do that, because my husband needs to send out his supporting documents first. Because once I fill out the VAF4A form, I will book an appointment to get my biometrics done. Once I go to the biometric appointment, I have five days to mail the entire application package. So essentially, anything beyond the VAF4A application is the last step in gathering up the documents. I'll need to have everything else before I proceed with that. But my husband has earned enough for both the application and the NHS fee, so apart from his documents, we are ready to get this all together and mailed out.

Let's just hope this all goes smoothly and I don't get denied. I'm still terrified of that....

Doubts

As of right now, I'm starting to wonder if I should've taken the fiancé visa route. At least then I would be married and with him. Nothing hurts worse than to marry somebody only to have them go back home two weeks later. It's extremely unfair, but so is life. Lately though I've been having some bad resentment. I will not go into detail. But it still stands that I will not take this distance any longer. I could handle it before but now that we are married, I can't handle it anymore. This isn't what a marriage is supposed to be like. Especially a new and fresh one at that. I'm not supposed to be feeling lonely, abandoned, or physically disconnected. A fresh marriage should never be that way. But here I am, feeling this way. Ugh.
I'm having this bitter jealousy towards LoveMyBrit too. As much I HIGHLY appreciate their help and are blessed by their detailed articles, I can't also help but feel jealous that they've closed the distance successfully.

I'm not giving up on this, but I'm most definitely on thin strings now.




Happy 4th everyone! 🇺🇸


Can't say I will, cause 9 times outta 10 I'll be left home alone. But truly at this point I'm resigned to it.